So you don’t have a date for Valentine’s Day? Good, me either! (laughing) We are in this together but you know what? It’s not the end of the world and you shouldn’t sulk around sitting on the couch feeling sad or depressed. You probably thought this blog post would give you some self-gratification about feeling sorry for yourself and sulking in tears of loneliness…..BUT I would be doing a disservice to you and myself if I did that. I get it, it’s not easy seeing all of the happy and ‘Oh I’m so in love” social media posts floating around everywhere you look. It’s a painful reminder that “YOU’RE STILL ALONE”. The good news is, you’re FREE!! (laughing) . Okay, Let me clean that up a little. I promise I’m not being insensitive. It’s all about perspective!
I was recently asked if I had a date for Valentine’s Day and my response was “No I don’t, but that won’t stop me from going out on a date”. That person looked at me crazy so I had to explain. I told them that I refuse to put my happiness on hold just because I don’t have anyone in my life right now. Don’t get me wrong, it took a while for me to get to this point after losing a spouse. I was completely shattered for various reasons but at some point, you have to realize that “Life goes on”. How much time are you going to waste in this very short life we have here on earth?! So, on Valentine’s Day, I have a date with myself at the movie theater to watch “The Photograph” which I am very excited to see. I’m a sucker for a good love story, especially on the day of “Love”.
If you’re single on this Valentine’s Day, I would encourage you to love yourself. Do something to celebrate YOU! Just because you don’t have a date or a companion doesn’t mean you should put yourself on hold. Go out and enjoy yourself! I truly believe that you aren’t even ready for a relationship until you can enjoy your own company. You need to be happy with yourself first and foremost before inviting someone else into your space. Through experience I have learned that no other person can satisfy that desire and longing in the heart but God. He is our creator and only the creator of the human heart knows exactly what it needs, how to fix it when it’s broken, and who’s hands will take care of it.
“If you are not whole, happy, and loving yourself in your singleness, you risk making the person you attach yourself to your idol and that is unhealthy. You must be able to breathe on your own”
Live your life! Put God first always because He knows what and WHO you need. You will meet one amazing person while you are living and enjoying your life and when you do, it will make life greater for you. When you are whole (healed, set free and content), another person won’t just fill a void, they will complement and help you complete the purpose God placed you here for. You in turn, will do the same for them.
Happy Valentine’s Day ❤
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